Everyone deals with stress in their lives. The distance between our expectations and the reality of the situation will indicate our level of stress. So what do you do?
Adjust your performance to change your reality. If you didn't get a good review at work or your relationship with your child or parents is strained for example, make changes in your behavior that might improve and change your present reality.
Or adjust your expectations. If you have expectations of somebody else and you're only OK if they change, you are in a powerless position. Accept them as they are and not as you would have them. If you are discontent with your life and it is not in your power to change it. Acceptance. If you're holding on to hurt from years ago and are feeling bitter. Acceptance. Adjust your expectations to what is true rather than how things "should" be or "should have" been.
Decrease your stress today. Either adjust your performance if it is in your control or adjust your expectations if it is not. Discerning between the two will decrease your stress level before you know it.
Rick Jass, MA, LPC
Charis Counseling, LLC
"Encouraging Excellence in Living"
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